As an experienced riding coach, I pride myself on being able to suss out my riders’ personalities......from the way they ride or approach horses. Now, I know for those new to riding, cautiousness usually comes as standard – a pretty good strategy when you don’t know the front from the back. However, even how riders approach cautiousness tells a tale.
For those more experienced, their ‘stuck points’ are often the same as those they might experience in their life outside riding. I could give you many examples, but I also speak from my own personal experience where my riding coaches often say they want me to develop a bit of ‘edge’ in my riding; ask more, expect more and expect it now. I remember, many years ago, that same word being used by my business mentor. But somehow, I’m not sure I’ve ever really got the hang of it. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s just not in my personality.
However, I’ve learned a lot over the years about how to ‘act as if’. The first thing I did was to ask whether I wanted to do things differently. Mostly, I quite like the way I deal with things, but I can see where having a different approach would be useful. For example, bringing challenge to a client when coaching. So, rather than worrying about becoming someone I’m not, I decided to expand my toolkit to include different language patterns, using expanding questions to find out more and offering reframing.
My next blog will cover some of these techniques in more detail, so remember to subscribe to the feed to make sure you get notified straight away!