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Change Camp

Well, this Saturday saw another ChangeCamp taking place in Gosforth.  It's a bi-annual event to explore the psychology of change arranged by Andy Hunt, from Practical Well-being.  Despite the challenging weather, we had a great turnout and so much enthusiasm and debate.  The workshop I ran was about resilience through change.  My last blog was about resilience, but this workshop really got me thinking about the change process and why so many of us find it hard.  I think it comes down to fear.  Whenever we go through change, even if it's good change, we always have to leave a bit of something behind to make space for something new.  This means that we go from being a person who we know very well, through a period where we're moving away from being that person but haven't yet become the new person.  This is the scariest time!  Once we can move past this stage, we begin to settle into the 'new' way and become more comfortable with it. This process can apply in so many circumstances from major life changing events such as bereavement to considering changing jobs to deciding to deal with a situation in a different way.  Often there is no defined beginning or end but this can induce further anxiety.  Once we recognise that it is only the fear of this unknown that perhaps keeps us from moving on, we can plan for the change in a more effective way, gather resources around us and be more proactive and in control of things.  There are many  tried and tested ways of dealing with change, but being proactive has to be one of the most effective.  Deciding which bits you can control, which bits are someone else's responsibility and understanding the difference can take much of the stress away. It's very rare that we're in charge of everything about any given situation and losing sleep about bits that belong to someone else can waste energy!  Try this easy to use technique to see which bits you're worrying about unnecessarily.  Circle of Concern.  Good Luck!!

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